Blue Sky │ Family Ministry Center

Godly Adornment Today



Part Eight


God gives specific instructions to wives in how they should minister to their husbands living in disobedience to the the Word of God.  In essence, they should follow the example of Jesus Christ, and focus upon behavior.  Today we will look at what the well-dressed wife will be wearing.

1 Peter 3:3, page 1896

“Your adornment must not be merely external–braiding the hair, wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses;”

Attention to Adornment. I have met many women who dress carefully.  My wife has worked in hospital labs and private labs, often with strict dress codes.  She will put on her scrubs, of a particular color worn by all lab employees, and get ready for work.  She will then put on minimal jewelry, arrange her hair, and go to work.  I am sure you have seen women who also take care to dress appropriately for work.   In 1 Peter 3:3, page 1896 above, we see that God tells wives to be careful about their outward appearance.  Interestingly, Peter focuses upon “dresses” (“ἱματίων κόσμος“), and literally he means the outer garment like a cloak, gown, or robe worn outside the inner garment.  He also describes it with the word “kosmos,” from which we get the word “cosmetics.”   Peter uses a complex metaphor here to contrast the outer appearance with the inner heart. Peter knows that women often take a special interest in having the right hairstyle, having just the right earrings or bracelet to highlight their style, or getting just the right dress for the occasion.  God says what you wear interests Him.  But He cares about what you wear inside, as well as outside.

1 Peter 3:4, page 1896

“but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.”

The Hidden Person of the Heart.  God wants women, and particularly wives, to adorn the hidden person.  God has concerns about what your heart is wearing.  While we tend to look on outward appearance, God focuses upon our inward attire also.  When your husband acts disobediently to the Word of God, you need to be sure to dress appropriately.  What you wear inside will change the way that other people see you.  Of course, the world trains us to think that clothes really matter.  Actually, God teaches us that what we wear inside, in the hidden person of the heart, matters most.    God calls upon us to have an imperishable quality of spirit.  This quality never fades over time, but continues to shine with eternal virtue. God provides clothes of righteousness for us to wear in our hearts (Ephesians 4:24, page 1831).   He also emphasizes the eternal fashion of a gentle and quiet spirit.  The word “gentle” (“πραέως“) describes the quality of the woman as she lives with a disobedient husband.  The gentle woman embodies the quality that Jesus spoke about in the Beatitudes: “Blessed are the gentle, for they shall inherit the earth” (Matthew 5:5, page 1506).  The gentle have a mild, soft and tame spirit.  Peter also describes a “quiet” (“ἡσυχίου“) spirit.   This word describes the silence that fell over the crowd when Paul spoke to them in Hebrew (Acts 22:2, page 1744), and way that Jesus silenced His critics as He prepared to heal on the  Sabbath (Luke 14:4,  page 1629).  This quiet spirit reminds us of Jesus standing silently before Pilate as He was on trial (Isaiah 53:7, page 1155; Matthew 27:14, page 1553; see also Matthew 26:63, page 1552).  When your disobedient husband reviles you, attacks you, or scorns you, you remain silent, just like Jesus.

Precious in the Sight of God.  God wants every woman to know that He values the woman who has a gentle and quiet spirit and calls her “precious.”  So many woman living with a disobedient husband feel useless, hopeless, and worthless.   Their husbands verbally abuse them, and scorn them.  The Lord Jesus, however, wants that woman to know that He calls her precious because of the gentle and quiet spirit within her.  Instead of responding in kind to her husband, she lives before her husband with this gentle and quiet spirit flowing through her.  She does not rise up to fight back against the sinful behavior of her husband, but rather demonstrates the same spirit that motivated the Lord Jesus as people attacked Him and ultimately crucified Him.

So we learn more about spiritual wives today and their role in daily devotions.

       ●  Being a wife in Christ means that you adorn yourself with a gentle and quiet spirit, no matter how your husband lives.  Your gentle and quiet spirit will be a part of the wife’s daily ministry to the husband living in disobedience to the Word of God.  Her behavior will be an example to her husband, her children, and everyone who observes her behavior.

       ●  Being a wife in Christ means that you rely upon the Lord Jesus to produce His life in your life, and He clothes you on the inside with a gentle and quiet spirit.

       ●  Being a wife in Christ means that you know that Christ considers you “precious” in His sight, especially as you demonstrate the gentle and quiet spirit within you.   

Application for Today

Sometimes the wife teaches her children how to live in marriage.  She sets the example of having a quiet and gentle spirit.  She knows that God considers her precious, even when her husband may scorn her.  The Godly wife continues to live for Christ, no matter how her husband lives.  His disobedience to the Word of God will not discourage her from living for Christ.  Will you demonstrate that gentle and quiet spirit in your life today?

Godly Adornment Today


Expository Studies

Play Video
Play Video

Daily Encouragement

Play Video

 Family Ministry Basics

Christ Assembly dedicates this website to the Family Ministry Center. Special content on this website focuses upon fathers, mothers, children, families and spiritual life. The family of God relates directly to the kingdom of God. You cannot see the Kingdom of God without being born again. Likewise, you cannot join the family of God without being born again. Many people living in the family of God have severe spiritual challenges in their lives. Adult children who have embraced sin and fallen into a life of sin cause great concern. Spouses who do not believe. All kinds of issues face the family of God. At Christ Assembly, we seek to minister to all families, particularly the family of God. Christ Assembly provides free access to various studies from the Bible, the Word of God.

 Christ Assembly Basics 

Christ Assembly dedicates this website to the Family Ministry Center. Special content on this website focuses upon father, mothers, families and spiritual life. Christ Assembly provides free access to various studies from the Bible, the Word of God. The studies in this website are not inspired, but God produced the Bible, consisting of sixty-nine books (39 Old Testament and 27 New Testament). The Holy Spirit inspired authors to produce original autographs of the Bible in Hebrew, Aramaic and Greek. Those original authors wrote over the course of many centuries. They wrote divinely inspired words and every word was divinely inspired. The authors communicated in their own styles, and with their own vocabulary, but God breathed out every word of the final autographs. The words in the Bible really matter, and deserve careful study. 
As we study, we seek to love Jesus more because His word has instructed us so that we learn His ways. Eternal life consists in knowing God the Father, and Jesus Christ Whom God sent. As the eternal God of Glory, One with His Father, the Son of God took flesh and dwelt among us. Because of His death, He used His blood to purchase our redemption. He was raised for our justification. We now live by faith in the Son of God, Who loved us and gave Himself for us. By the grace of God, the Holy Spirit abides in every born-again believer and fills us with His presence and blessings. He leads us into all truth. Jesus is the truth, and the way, and the life; no one comes to the Father but through Jesus, our Lord. 
We look forward to His imminent return to the clouds of earth, to snatch away the believers alive on earth, so that we may be forever with the Lord. When He returns to the clouds, He will bring with Him all those people in Christ who died before His return to the clouds. We encourage one another with the promises of God, Who makes our path grow brighter and brighter, until the full light of day shines forth. We love Jesus and look forward to seeing Him soon. After Jesus removes the believers from the earth, then a terrible period of seven years follows where God brings measured and precise judgments upon the people alive on earth. God cut those days of  Tribulation short, or no flesh would have been saved. Jesus will then return to earth, slay His enemies, and place His feet on the Mount of Olives where He ascended to heaven. He will then reign on earth for a thousand years, and believers will reign with Him. After the Millennial Reign of Christ, all unbelievers will be judged at the Great White Throne Judgment, and they will suffer according to their deeds done on earth. They will be cast into the Lake of Fire, a place of torment night and day for eternity, because they never received the free gift of salvation while alive on earth. One day, every knee will bow and every tongue confess that Jesus is Lord, to the glory of God. Today we invite you to come and see Jesus, and learn from Him, for He is gentle and humble in heart. Take His yoke upon you, for His burden is easy and His yoke is light. He will give you rest for your soul as you trust Him. We receive salvation only from Jesus, by faith alone in Jesus, Who gives us the free gift of eternal life. 
We accept the teaching of the Word of God. As born again believers, baptized by Jesus with the Holy Spirit, the anointing from God teaches us all things. We love to study the Word of God as we abide in Christ Jesus our Lord. God blesses all of us when we read His word, hear His word, and heed His word. We share original studies of the Word of God without cost and we do not receive donations. We support the finances of this ministry through private means, so that we are not a burden to anyone. We oppose charging people to read books, articles, journals or other studies of the Word of God. Such work should be supported by donations, but not in prescribed amounts and not as a requirement to gain access to what God has freely provided. What God has freely given, we should freely share. Just as Paul worked making tents, so we work to support this ministry. 

 Christ Assembly License

The author of all original material on this website retains all legal and equitable rights to the properties at issue. The author granted Christ Assembly a limited-use, revocable license to publish material on this website, while reserving all ownership rights to the original author. You may use any original material on this website to the glory of God, but you may not receive anything of value for such use. You may not receive any donations related to any original material on this website. All use of original material on this website is subject to the revocable, limited license above. You must conspicuously indicate on any use of the original material that it originated from  Any revocation of the license shall be posted on this website and all rights to use material may be revoked without prior notice. By copying and using any original material from this website, you consent to such license. Christ Assembly opposes any payment for access to studies, articles, journals, or other publications of studies concerning the Word of God. As God has freely given, so also the products of His grace should be freely shared.